婚姻

初戀總是寶貴的，令人難忘的，遺憾的是，十有八九的初戀，都不能成為婚姻， 因為不能成為婚姻，初戀又顯得更為寶貴，讓人回味無窮。

阿偉是一位心臟科醫生，和太太結婚二十年，兒子已入大學。 在一次大學舊生會，重遇初戀情人Alice。Alice當年是眾男生的夢中情人，公認 的美人兒。就是現在，仍比實際年齡漂亮年輕。當初，為了一個誤會，再加兩人 的自尊心特強，就這樣分開了。後來，Alice去了外國，阿偉留在香港。初戀的夭 折，一度令阿偉痛苦不已，幾乎垮了，幸虧得一位護士同事的關心和鼓勵，令他 於走出感情低谷，重拾心情，這位女同事就成了他的太太。

不料二十年後重逢Alice。那晚，他們談了很多，解除了誤會，只是，大家都已人 到中年！次日，Alice打電話邀阿偉去淺水灣酒店燭光晚餐, 阿偉問：「是不是請我太太一起去？」 Alice回答：「我只想請你一個人，我們已失卻太多時光，現在是彌補的時候「對不起，除了因公事，晚上我一般不單獨外出吃晚飯。」 「你不是怕老婆吧？」Alice譏諷他。 我怕老婆！」他直認不諱。「我好怕不自覺地令她不開心。」

幾日後，Alice又特地讓速遞公司送來一封信，信封上寫明要他親啟，並且注 明：only for you！阿偉將信原封退回。 「本來，我會讓太太也看這封信的，既然你不希望她看，我也不看了。我已習慣 與她分享生活中的一切喜怒哀樂。」

Alice很不忿氣。她見過阿偉的太太，已中年發福，且不擅修飾，像個屋村師奶， 相反，自己比實際年齡要年輕得多，風韻猶存。當年阿偉追她追得這樣熱烈，他 不可能對她失卻feeling的，一定是阿偉的太太兇神惡煞。 她一不做二不休，當 下親身到他診所。

阿偉，你只需講yes or no。你仍對我有 feeling 嗎？你還愛我嗎？你以前是十分愛我的。」

阿偉只笑笑。「愛一個人與恨一個人同樣需要精力和能力。感情過去了，應該無 愛無恨，古人說，一笑泯恩愁。讓已過去的、無法改變的事實影響目前，根本毫 無好處。我已將我的全部愛分給我的家人，而且，我已過了這種玩浪漫感情的年 紀。」

Alice仍不死心。「你真的愛你太太？還是僅出於一種義務和責任？賽過當年對我 那份初戀之情？」

「我是醫生。我相信一種科學說法，真正的愛只能維持十個月，正好是由胚胎到 嬰兒哇哇出世所需的時日。這或許是從生物進化的角度來解釋。但愛不同愛情，愛，或許是一種由荷爾蒙分泌而激發出的感情反應，一如我們悲傷會流淚,開心會 微笑，是一種很生物式的感情反應。用一個不合適的比喻：雄性動物在追求異性 時，毛 會特別亮麗，叫聲也會特別悅耳愛，只是一種行為，動物也懂得用舔觸等 動作表示『愛』，然而，唯有愛情，才是人類獨有的能力。一個情字，令人類愛 的行為，變得成熟、深沉，由一種單一的行為上升為一種情懷。我很懷念我們的 初戀，但我更珍惜我和太太的婚姻，珍惜我們一起走過的這段路。」

阿偉的思路非常清晰，不愧是位名醫生。他十分明白，當初，在他感情最低谷、 最消沉時，是現在的太太給他溫暖，喚起他的信心。後來，太太省吃儉用，自己 帶著兒子獨守空巢，支持阿偉外出留學深造。這二十來年，是太太伴他走過來 的。太太全心於這個家上，無心顧及自己的儀容、衣著，她將每一分一秒，都花 在家人身上。而且，太太屬於那種生活低調，安於做男人背後的女人那種類型。 阿偉不想太太為了他而刻意改變自己，做她不喜歡做的事。因為愛她，他也尊重 她，由她選擇她自己喜歡的生活方式。

「我們互相看著白髮開始萌生，皺紋出現，因為這後面包含著許多只有我們兩人知道的故事，孩子的出世，我們第一間屋的喬遷，雙方父母病故的哀痛，我們升 職，她的一次有驚無險的大手術……點點滴滴都寫在她和我的皺紋上，也只有她和 我才懂得。至於你，Alice，我很懷念那段我們花樣的年華，但我不會用現在幸福 充實的家庭生活去交換那段時日的延續，這只有百害而無一利。如果我們都珍惜 我們的初戀，珍惜這次難得的二十年後的重逢，我們就這樣互相握手、互道『珍 重』吧！」

Alice聽了這番話，默默擁抱了阿偉，轉頭就走。

人說，蒼蠅不叮無縫的蛋。 今天婚外情、一夜情泛濫， 但這絕成不了你忽略她、冷淡她的理由。 珍惜你與她一起走過的路， 而你對她的愛，會如醇酒，愈陳舊愈香

Life ~ Rick Warren

You will enjoy the new insights that Rick Warren has, with his wife nowhaving cancer and him having 'wealth' from the book sales. This is anabsolutely incredible short interview with Rick Warren,'Purpose Driven Life ' author and pastor of Saddleback Church inCalifornia

In the interview by Paul Bradshaw with Rick Warren, Rick said:
People ask me, What is the purpose of life? And I respond: In anutshell, life is preparation for eternity. We were not made to lastforever, and God wants us to be with Him in Heaven.

One day my heart is going to stop, and that will be the end of my body--but not the end of me.
I may live 60 to 100 years on earth, but I am going to spend trillionsof years in eternity. This is the warm-up act - the dress rehearsal. Godwants us to practice on earth what we will do forever in eternity.

We were made by God and for God, and until you figure that out, lifeisn't going to make sense.
Life is a series of problems: Either you are in one now, you're justcoming out of one, or you're getting ready to go into another one..

The reason for this is that God is more interested in your characterthan your comfort.
God is more interested in making your life holy than He is in makingyour life happy.
We can be reasonably happy here on earth, but that's not the goal oflife. The goal is to grow in character, in Christ likeness.

This past year has been the greatest year of my life but also thetoughest, with my wife, Kay, getting cancer. I used to think that life was hills and valleys - you go through a darktime, then you go to the mountaintop, back and forth. I don't believethat anymore.

Rather than life being hills and valleys, I believe that it's kind oflike two rails on a railroad track, and at all times you have somethinggood and something bad in your life.

No matter how good things are in your life, there is always somethingbad that needs to be worked on.

And no matter how bad things are in your life, there is always somethinggood you can thank God for.

You can focus on your purposes, or you can focus on your problems.
If you focus on your problems, you're going intoself-centeredness,'which is my problem, my issues, my pain.' But one ofthe easiest ways to get rid of pain is to get your focus off yourselfand onto God and others.

We discovered quickly that in spite of the prayers of hundreds ofthousands of people, God was not going to heal Kay or make it easy forher.

It has been very difficult for her, and yet God has strengthened her character, given her a ministry of helping other people, given her atestimony, drawn her closer to Him and to people.
You have to learn to deal with both the good and the bad of life.

Actually, sometimes learning to deal with the good is harder. Forinstance, this past year, all of a sudden, when the book sold 15 millioncopies, it made me instantly very wealthy.
It also brought a lot of notoriety that I had never had to deal withbefore. I don't think God gives you money or notoriety for your own ego or for you to live a life of ease.

So I began to ask God what He wanted me to do with this money, notorietyand influence. He gave me two different passages that helped me decidewhat to do, II Corinthians 9 and Psalm 72

First, in spite of all the money coming in, we would not change ourlifestyle one bit.. We made no major purchases.
Second, about midway through last year, I stopped taking a salary fromthe church.
Third, we set up foundations to fund an initiative we call The PeacePlan to plant churches, equip leaders, assist the poor, care for thesick, and educate the next generation.
Fourth, I added up all that the chu rch had paid me in the 24 yearssince I started the church, and I gave it all back. It was liberating tobe able to serve God for free.

We need to ask ourselves: Am I going to live for possessions?Popularity?
Am I going to be driven by pressures? Guilt? Bitterness? Materialism? Oram I going to be driven by God's purposes (for my life)?

When I get up in the morning, I sit on the side of my bed and say, God,if I don't get anything else done today, I want to know You more andlove You better. God didn't put me on earth just to fulfill a to-dolist. He's more interested in what I am than what I do.That's why we're called human beings, not human doings.

Happy moments, PRAISE GOD.
Difficult moments, SEEK GOD.
Quiet moments, WORSHIP GOD.
Painful moments, TRUST GOD.
Every moment, THANK GOD.
May God's Blessings on you today.

11 things they did not teach you at school...~ Bill Gates

Bill Gates recently gave a speech to High School students about 11 things they did not and will not learn in school.

He talks about how feel-good, politically correct teachings created a generation of kids with no concept of reality and how this concept set them up for failure in the real world.

Rule 1: Life is not fair - get used to it!

Rule 2 : The world won't care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won't be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: they called it opportunity.

Rule 6: If you mess up, it's not your parents' fault, so don't whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent's generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished fail in grades and they'll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn't bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.

Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11: Be nice to Nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one!

How true....he IS a genius