28 December, 2008

God will never give up on you

One day I decided to quit...

I quit my job, my relationship, my spirituality... I wanted to quit my life.

I went to the woods to have one last talk with God.

"God", I asked, "Can you give me one good reason not to quit?"

His answer surprised me...

"Look around", He said. "Do you see the fern and the bamboo?"

"Yes", I replied. "

When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds, I took very good care of them. I gave them light. I gave them water. The fern quickly grew from the earth. Its brilliant green covered the floor. Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo.

In the second year the Fern grew more vibrant and plentiful. And again, nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo. He said.

"In year three there was still nothing from the bamboo seed. But I would not quit.

In year four, again, there was nothing from the bamboo seed. I would not quit." He said.

"Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged from the earth. Compared to the fern it was seemingly small and insignificant...

But just 6 months later the bamboo rose to over 100 feet tall.

It had spent the five years growing roots. Those roots made it strong and gave it what it needed to survive.

I would not give any of my creations a challenge it could not handle." He asked me. "Did you know, my child, that all this time you have been struggling, you have actually been growing roots". "I would not quit on the bamboo. I will never quit on you." "Don't compare yourself to others." He said. "The bamboo had a different Purpose than the fern. Yet they both make the forest beautiful." "Your time will come", God said to me. "You will rise high"

"How high should I rise?" I asked.

"How high will the bamboo rise?" He asked in return.

"As high as it can?" I questioned.

"Yes." He said,

"Give me glory by rising as high as you can." I left the forest and brought back this story.

I hope these words can help you see that God will never give up on you.

Don't tell the Lord how big the problem is, tell the problem how Great the Lord is!

九九一族

有位國王,天下盡在手中,照理,應該滿足了吧,但事實並非如此。

國王自己也納悶,為什麼對自己的生活還不滿意,儘管他也有意識地參加一些有意思的晚宴和聚會,但都無濟於事,總覺得缺點什麼。

一天,國王起個大早,決定在王宮中四處轉轉。當國王走到御膳房時,他聽到有人在快樂地哼著小曲。循著聲音,國王看到是一個廚子在唱歌,臉上洋溢著幸福和快樂。

國王甚是奇怪,他問廚子為什麼如此快樂?

廚子答道:「陛下,我雖然只不過是個廚子,但我一直盡我所能讓我的妻小快樂,我們所需不多,頭頂有間草屋,肚裏不缺暖食,便夠了。我的妻子和孩子是我的精神支柱,而我帶回家哪怕一件小東西都能讓他們滿足。我之所以天天如此快樂,是因為我的家人天天都快樂。」

聽到這裏,國王讓廚子先退下,然後向宰相諮詢此事

宰相答道:「陛下,我相信這個廚子還沒有成為『九九一族』。」 國王詫異地問道:「九九一族?什麼是九九一族?」 宰相答道:「陛下,想確切地知道什麼是九九一族,請您先做這樣一件事情,在一個包裏,放進去九九枚金幣,然後把這個包放在那個廚子的家門口,您很快就會明白什麼是九九一族了。」

國王按照宰相所言,令人將裝了九九枚金幣的布包放在了那個快樂的廚子門前。廚子回家的時候發現了門前的布包,好奇心讓他將包拿到房間裏,當他打開包,先是驚詫,然後狂喜:「金幣!全是金幣!這麼多的金幣!」廚子將包裏的金幣全部倒在桌上,開始查點金幣,「九九枚?」廚子認為不應該是這個數,於是他數了一遍又一遍,的確是九九枚。他開始納悶:「沒理由只有九九枚啊?沒有人會只裝九九枚啊?那麼那一枚金幣哪裡去了?」

廚子開始尋找,他找遍了整個房間,又找遍了整個院子,直到筋疲力盡,他才徹底絕望了,心中沮喪到了極點。他決定從明天起,加倍努力工作,早日掙回一枚金幣,以使他的財富達到百枚金幣。

由於晚上找金幣太辛苦,第二天早上他起來得有點晚,情緒也極壞,對妻子和孩子大吼大叫,責怪他們沒有及時叫醒他,影響了他早日掙到一枚金幣這一宏偉目標的實現。他匆匆來到御膳房,不再像往日那樣興高采烈,既不哼小曲也不吹口哨了,只是埋頭拼命地幹活,一點也沒有注意到國王正悄悄地觀察著他。

看到廚子心緒變化如此巨大,國王大為不解,得到那麼多的金幣應該欣喜若狂才對啊。他再次詢問宰相。

宰相答道:「陛下,這個廚子現在已經正式加入『九九一族』了。

九九一族是這樣一類人:他們擁有很多,但從來不會滿足,他們拼命工作,為了額外的那個『一』,他們苦苦努力,渴望儘早實現『百』。原本生活中那麼多值得高興和滿足的事情,因為忽然出現了湊足『百』的可能性,一切都被打破了,他竭力去追求那個並無實質意義的『一』,不惜付出失去快樂的代價,這就是九九一族。」

20 November, 2008

大陸電影譯名

英文名: ANTZ

香港譯名: 蟻哥正傳

大陸譯名: 無產階級貧下中農螞蟻革命史 (完全睇唔出同"無產階級"、"貧下中農"有乜關係,同埋點解大陸成日鍾意咩都跟革命扯上關係?)

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英文名: The Lord Of The Rings: The Two Towers

香港譯名: 魔戒二部曲: 雙城奇謀

大陸譯名: 指環王2: 兩座塔 (金塔定屎塔? )P.S.我覺得"色戒"可以考慮譯做"情色指環王"。

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英文名: 007: Die Another Day

香港譯名: 新鐵金剛之不日殺機

大陸譯名: 新鐵金剛之擇日再死 (死都要擇日?駛唔駛搵蘇民峰算一算?)

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英文名: Catch Me If You Can

香港譯名: 捉智雙雄

大陸譯名: 來找我啊,如果你可以 (擺明直譯無經過思考)

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英文名: Pretty Woman

香港譯名: 風月俏佳人

大陸譯名:漂亮女人 (咁你又吹佢唔漲,因為照字面真係咁解)

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英文名: Indecent Proposal

香港譯名: 不道德的交易

大陸譯名: 不道德的建設 (起雞竇呀而家......?睇過套戲o既人都知唔關建設事....九唔搭八!!!)

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英文名: The Passion Of Christ

香港譯名: 受難曲

大陸譯名: 基督的激情 (老實講我覺得似鹹片名,唔知教廷知道呢個名之後有咩反應?)

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英文名: Finding Nemo

香港譯名: 海底奇兵

大陸譯名: 海底都是魚 (咁又未必,仲有珊瑚、水母、海參、鯨魚...)

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英文名: Top Gun

香港譯名: 壯志凌雲

大陸譯名: 好大的一支槍 (聽到o個刻係想死...我覺得似係鹹片o的低能對白。)

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英文名:The Day After Tomorrow

香港譯名: 明日之後

大陸譯名: 後天 (真係"啤"一聲....明日之後o個日即係後日,合乎邏輯,WellDone!!!)

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英文名: Aliens

香港譯名: 異形續集

大陸譯名: 珍奇異獸之風華再現 (你睇到呢個都唔笑的話我話你好o野。)

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英文名: The Powerpuff Girls

香港譯名: 飛天小女警

大陸譯名: 通天女公安 (一諗起大陸班陸軍頭、成日黑起塊面o既公安,仲有邊個想睇?)

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英文名: Babe

香港譯名: 寶貝小豬嘜

大陸譯名: 解決文化問題的快樂小寶貝 (各位將會應考中化科o既高考生終於有救星!)

Which type you are?

1.無憂無慮,頑皮,愉快的人 你喜歡自由自在,無拘無束的生活。 你的座右銘是︰生命只能活一次,因此你盡量享受每一刻。 你好奇心旺盛,對新事物抱有開放的態度;你向往改變,討厭束縛。 你覺得身邊的環境都不斷在變,而且經常為你帶來驚喜。

2. 獨立,前衛,不受拘束 你追求自由及不受拘束,自我的生活。 你的工作及消閑活動都與藝術有關。 你對于自由的渴求有時候會使你做出令人出人意表的事。 你的生活方式極具個人色彩;你永遠不會盲目追逐潮流。 相反地,你會根據自己的意思和信念去生活,就算是逆流而上也在所不惜。

3. 時常自我反省,敏感的思想家 你對于自己及四周的環境能夠比一般人控製得更好更徹底。 你討厭表面化及膚淺的東西;你寧愿獨自一人也不愿跟別人閑談,但你跟朋友的關系卻非常深入,這令你的心境保持和諧安逸。 不介意長時間獨自一人,而且絕少會覺得沈悶。

4. 務實,頭腦清醒,和諧 你作風自然,喜歡簡單的東西。 人們欣賞你腳踏實地,他們覺得你穩重,值得信賴。 你能夠給予身邊的人安全感,你給人一種親切,溫暖的感覺。 你對于俗氣的,花花綠綠的東西都不屑一顧,對時裝潮流抱著懷疑的態度; 對于你來說,衣服必須是實用及大方得體的。

5. 專業,實事求事,自信 你掌管自己的生活,你相信自己的能力多于相信命運的安排。 你以實際,簡單的方式去解決問題。 你對日常生活中所遇到的事物抱有現實的睇法,並且能夠應付自如。 人們知道你可擔重任,因此都放心把大量工作交給你處理。 你那堅強的意志使你時刻都充滿信心。 未達到自己的目標之前,你絕不罷休。

6. 溫和,謹慎,無攻擊性 你生性隨和,但處事謹慎。 你很容易認識朋友,但同時享受你的私人時間及獨立生活。 有時候,你會從人群中抽身而出,一個人靜靜地思考生活的意義,並自娛一番。 你需要個人的空間,因此有時會隱匿于美夢當中,但你並不是一個愛孤獨的人。 你跟自己及這個世界都能夠和陸共處,而你對現狀亦非常滿意。

7. 具分析力,可靠,自信 你對事物的靈敏度令你可以發現到旁人忽略了的東西。 這些就是你的寶石,你喜歡發掘這些美好的東西。 你的教養對于你的生活有很特別的影響。 你有自己高雅獨特的一套,無視任何時裝潮流。 你的理想生活是優雅而愉快的,而你亦希望跟你接觸的人們都是高雅而有教養的。

8. 浪漫,愛幻想,情緒化 你是一個感性的人。你拒絕只從一個嚴肅,理智的角度去理解事物。 你的感覺亦�怳嶺垠n。事實上,你覺得人生必需要有夢想才叫活得充實。 你不接受那些輕視浪漫主義及被理智牽著鼻子走的人; 而且不會讓任何事物影響到你那豐富的感情及情緒。

9. 精力充沛,好動,外向 你不介意冒險,特別喜歡有趣的,多元化的工作。 相比之下,例行公事及慣例會令你沒精打采。 你最興奮的是可以積極參與任何比賽活動,因為這樣你就可以在眾人面前大顯身手了。

19 November, 2008

助理心聲

i found this on someone's blog...very interesting


有人寫「飛機見聞」,有人寫「blog中有感」,那麼,不如我來一輯「助理生涯」吧。

1.做了十年以上的助理工作。其實辦公室助理(O.A.),與私人助理(P.A.)的性質,大方向是相同的。因為,都是令人煩爆的工作。

2.究竟私人助理與行政秘書有什麼分別呢?大方向也是相同的,因為都是做著類似管家的工作。(剛剛吃完芒果回來,這是什麼公司來的?下午茶吃芒果與西瓜喎!)

3.跟過四個老闆,三位男性,一位女性。

4.我很幸運,女老闆那時頗喜歡我(是否因為我不漂亮又不惹火呢?灰晒)。

5.也許喜歡我的原因,是我一整年都沒請過病假/事假,也沒有遲到早退。我該有點老牛的基因。

6.說過了,我一點不醒目的,只是願意學習。被罵被挑剔沒什麼大不了,因為工作環境既能學習,又有薪金收取,還想怎樣?要還神的,是我才對。

7.我深信,身為助理,最重要是,是「守口如瓶」。

8.工作間太多東西可聽,但聽後即忘,是「本事」。

9.我承認,自己有這個本事。

10.(可能只因為我記性差吧………)

11.記性不好,就將勤補拙。我把每事都記下來,方便日後尋線索。

12.做助理,切記的其中一點,是叫人留下聯絡方法。誰找老闆都好,不要只說他去了開會他不在香港,千萬千萬,要留下那人的電話號碼。這是經驗之談。

13.不要在老闆面前口多,但又要對老闆有適時的關心。難度超高。

14.我不愛奉承,但不會鄙視愛奉承老闆的人。人各有志,大家都有權選擇自己愛走的路。

15.但奉承歸奉承,別踏著別人的頭往上爬就好。我對那些人,有點反感。因為,畢竟那影響到別人。當然那也是人各有志的一種。

16.我不計較對工作付出,但我討厭貪得無厭的老闆。

17.但貪得無厭,總比不懂尊重別人的pk老闆好。

18.大多的老闆,都不愛旗下員工遲到,即使老闆也是愛遲到的人。

19.吩咐你做的事情,只有「完成」及「未能完成」。黑與白,沒有中間的。不用解釋為什麼未能完成,總之完成不了,在老闆眼中,只因你辦事不力。所以我整天都在製造穿梭機。

20.所有的老闆,都愛能給予他們確切答案的秘書(或助理)。你最好不要依依哦哦一幅未能肯定的表情,他們最憎。

21.也最好少說,「等我check check呀」。因為他們會想,為何你不一早check清楚才來稟告。

22.我想說的,是身為助理/行政秘書,要一早想多十個後著,計劃一二三四五地依次序排列起來。給老闆計劃一,不喜歡嗎?有二。如此類推。

23.是的,那個事前的功夫,會做到你氣絕身亡。而且,你得天天都腦筋急轉彎,去做那些事前功夫。

24.我承認,有時我做不好。做得不好的時候,自己也會挑剔自己。

25.助理/秘書的薪金範圍,很闊很廣,可由月薪六千,到月薪三至四萬(一般正常公司,像baker & mckenzie的E.C.,我猜勁好多吧)。

26.如果可以的話,最好別太介入他的私生活。否則,會死得好慘。連週日家裡的水喉壞了,你也要幫忙找人修理。

27.老闆與助理/秘書間,應互存信任。尤其老闆,怎都該相信自己的助理/秘書。所以她不該有誤囉。

28.他心情欠佳的時候,盡量少說話;他心情大好的時候,也別多話。總之,多做事少說話就最好。

29.老闆當助理/秘書是親人了,最愛在她們面前,不留情面地罵其它員工。身為助理/秘書的生存之道,是當下就把自己變成一具活死人,沒有表情。聽完一堆莫明奇妙的罵人話後,走出房間,馬上失憶!那個被罵的人也好慘,所以盡量不要與他有眼神接觸。

30.中環那個舊老闆,是個大好人。

31.尖東那個舊老闆,我無野講。

32.現在的大老闆,也是個好人。

33.沒大志的我,可能直至退休,都做著這種工作。

17 November, 2008

PUSH

有一個晚上,一男子在自己的睡房睡覺,整個房間突被光充滿,主耶穌顯現在他面前。主耶穌對這個男子說要交付他作一件事,然後在男子的房間外面出現了一塊巨大的石。主耶穌要求這男子盡力去推這石塊。如是者,這男子一天一天的去做。過了幾年,每天從日出至日落,他用肩膀推著那表面寒冷、粗糙而且永都推不動的石塊。每晚,這男子極其疲累的回到房間,卻覺得自己的努力是徒然的。

隨著心中的失望,敵人也悄悄對他軟弱的意志說:「你一直努力的推那石塊,但它何曾動過?為什麼要這樣折磨自己?你一生也不會推得動它了。」就這樣,這男子更認為主耶穌所托付他的是絕不可能做到,同時亦認為自己失敗了。這些想法令這男子很沮喪。「為甚麼我要如此折磨自己?」他想,「倒不如我只付出少少時間,少少力量便夠了。」 他這樣計劃著,直至有一天,他將這事禱告主。 「主啊!我一直按你的要求用盡我力、勞苦的事奉你,但到了今天,我還是從未將這石塊推動一點點。究竟問題出自那??我為甚麼會失敗?」

主耶穌恩慈的回應說:「朋友,我要求你事奉我,而你也應允。我所要求盡力量去推這石塊,而你也做到了。我可曾要求你把它推動呢?你的工作只是要推它,但你現在到我面前,竟很疲乏的說你失敗?可是,真的失敗嗎?看吧,你的一雙手臂鍛鍊得很強壯,你直挺的背也曬得黑黑的,你的手掌因一直受壓而變得厚了,你的腿壯健了。因這些衝擊你成長了不少,而能力超越以前。你並沒有把石塊推得動,你只被蒙召去順服,鍛鍊你對我智慧的信心便夠了。這些都是你做到的,而現在,朋友啊,是我來把石塊推動的時候了。」

當我們聽到上帝的話語後,總會用自己的智慧去猜度上帝想要甚麼,其實上帝只要我們單單服從及信靠。即是說,我們要去鍛鍊可以挪移大山的信心,但仍知道當情況轉差時,只需去「推」(p.u.s.h.)

當工作令我們疲累時,只需去「推」(P.U.S.H.);

當別人的反應是出乎意料之外時,只需去「推」(P.U.S.H.);

當錢差不多用光而賬單快到期時,只需去「推」(P.U.S.H.);

當別人不明白你時,只需去「推」(P.U.S.H.);

推...P.U.S.H.....Pray Until Something Happens

缺點與優點

有個老富翁在臨死前,想把財產分給個性、行為最成熟的孩子

於是他想了個法子把三兄弟召來床前:「我想決定遺產的分配,但不知道該怎麼分比較好,能不能請你們幫個忙?每人拿兩張紙,一張寫下自己的優點,一張寫下另外兩個人的缺點,然後再把兩張紙拿給另外兩兄弟簽名,不管是優點還是缺點,寫得愈多,且愈快完成這件事的人,就能分得最多的財產。」

三兄弟聽到指示急忙照辦,並與父親約定隔天早上在他的房間揭曉結果。

第二天一大早,三兄弟就聚集在老富翁房前,只見老大、老二仍在為簽字與否爭論不休時,老三卻坐在一旁氣定神閒

父親於是問他情況如何,老三說已經獲得兩位哥哥的簽名同意了,父親非常驚訝,問他是怎麼辦到的?

老三說:「我寫自己優點的這張是空白的,寫哥哥缺點的那張紙也是空白,我認為自己沒有優點,他們沒有缺點,他們接受起來一點也不困難,當然非常同意,就幫我簽字了。」

老富翁接著叫兩位哥哥拿出他們的優點與缺點清單。

老翁看了一下笑了笑,兩人所寫的自我優點與寫別人缺點的數量剛好一樣多

有趣的是,大哥自認為的優點卻是二弟眼中的缺點;相反的,二弟自認為的優點,正是大哥所列舉的缺點。

兩人看自己的觀點剛好南轅北轍。

父親見老大、老二爭執不下,於是又再問老三,有沒有什麼好建議能幫他們解決。

老三說:「我建議他們先簽下寫自己缺點的那一張紙,如果先承認自己的缺點,對方也會同意你有優點。」

兩位哥哥聞道,便照著小老弟的話試試,結果果然皆大歡喜,寫下缺點和優點的兩張紙都順利獲得簽名同意。

老富翁微笑地點點頭,比對著三兄弟的清單,其中三弟的兩張清單上的簽字時間分別是十點一分及十點二分,差距只有一分鐘。與兩位哥哥清單上別人簽字的時間整整差了24小時以上。

老富翁拿給三兄弟一人一個信封,裡面放有一張紙條,上頭寫著:

原來要別人接受你的邏輯很簡單

先承認自己有缺點,優點才有成長的空間

原來要別人接受你的方法是那麼的簡單

先體會別人的感受,不是先保護自己的感受

原來優點和缺點的界線並不在我們身上,是在別人心上

11 November, 2008

Obama's speech

If there is anyone out there who still doubts that America is a place where all things are possible; who still wonders if the dream of our founders is alive in our time; who still questions the power of our democracy, tonight is your answer.

It’s the answer told by lines that stretched around schools and churches in numbers this nation has never seen; by people who waited three hours and four hours, many for the very first time in their lives, because they believed that this time must be different; that their voice could be that difference.

It’s the answer spoken by young and old, rich and poor, Democrat and Republican, black, white, Latino, Asian, Native American, gay, straight, disabled and not disabled – Americans who sent a message to the world that we have never been a collection of Red States and Blue States: we are, and always will be, the United States of America.

It’s the answer that led those who have been told for so long by so many to be cynical, and fearful, and doubtful of what we can achieve to put their hands on the arc of history and bend it once more toward the hope of a better day.

It’s been a long time coming, but tonight, because of what we did on this day, in this election, at this defining moment, change has come to America.

I just received a very gracious call from Senator McCain. He fought long and hard in this campaign, and he’s fought even longer and harder for the country he loves. He has endured sacrifices for America that most of us cannot begin to imagine, and we are better off for the service rendered by this brave and selfless leader. I congratulate him and Governor Palin for all they have achieved, and I look forward to working with them to renew this nation’s promise in the months ahead.

I want to thank my partner in this journey, a man who campaigned from his heart and spoke for the men and women he grew up with on the streets of Scranton and rode with on that train home to Delaware, the Vice President-elect of the United States, Joe Biden.

I would not be standing here tonight without the unyielding support of my best friend for the last sixteen years, the rock of our family and the love of my life, our nation’s next First Lady, Michelle Obama. Sasha and Malia, I love you both so much, and you have earned the new puppy that’s coming with us to the White House. And while she’s no longer with us, I know my grandmother is watching, along with the family that made me who I am. I miss them tonight, and know that my debt to them is beyond measure.

To my campaign manager David Plouffe, my chief strategist David Axelrod, and the best campaign team ever assembled in the history of politics – you made this happen, and I am forever grateful for what you’ve sacrificed to get it done.

But above all, I will never forget who this victory truly belongs to – it belongs to you.
I was never the likeliest candidate for this office. We didn’t start with much money or many endorsements. Our campaign was not hatched in the halls of Washington – it began in the backyards of Des Moines and the living rooms of Concord and the front porches of Charleston.
It was built by working men and women who dug into what little savings they had to give five dollars and ten dollars and twenty dollars to this cause. It grew strength from the young people who rejected the myth of their generation’s apathy; who left their homes and their families for jobs that offered little pay and less sleep; from the not-so-young people who braved the bitter cold and scorching heat to knock on the doors of perfect strangers; from the millions of Americans who volunteered, and organized, and proved that more than two centuries later, a government of the people, by the people and for the people has not perished from this Earth.

This is your victory.

I know you didn’t do this just to win an election and I know you didn’t do it for me. You did it because you understand the enormity of the task that lies ahead. For even as we celebrate tonight, we know the challenges that tomorrow will bring are the greatest of our lifetime – two wars, a planet in peril, the worst financial crisis in a century. Even as we stand here tonight, we know there are brave Americans waking up in the deserts of Iraq and the mountains of Afghanistan to risk their lives for us. There are mothers and fathers who will lie awake after their children fall asleep and wonder how they’ll make the mortgage, or pay their doctor’s bills, or save enough for college. There is new energy to harness and new jobs to be created; new schools to build and threats to meet and alliances to repair.

The road ahead will be long. Our climb will be steep. We may not get there in one year or even one term, but America – I have never been more hopeful than I am tonight that we will get there. I promise you – we as a people will get there.

There will be setbacks and false starts. There are many who won’t agree with every decision or policy I make as President, and we know that government can’t solve every problem. But I will always be honest with you about the challenges we face. I will listen to you, especially when we disagree. And above all, I will ask you join in the work of remaking this nation the only way it’s been done in America for two-hundred and twenty-one years – block by block, brick by brick, calloused hand by calloused hand.

What began twenty-one months ago in the depths of winter must not end on this autumn night. This victory alone is not the change we seek – it is only the chance for us to make that change. And that cannot happen if we go back to the way things were. It cannot happen without you.
So let us summon a new spirit of patriotism; of service and responsibility where each of us resolves to pitch in and work harder and look after not only ourselves, but each other. Let us remember that if this financial crisis taught us anything, it’s that we cannot have a thriving Wall Street while Main Street suffers – in this country, we rise or fall as one nation; as one people.
Let us resist the temptation to fall back on the same partisanship and pettiness and immaturity that has poisoned our politics for so long. Let us remember that it was a man from this state who first carried the banner of the Republican Party to the White House – a party founded on the values of self-reliance, individual liberty, and national unity. Those are values we all share, and while the Democratic Party has won a great victory tonight, we do so with a measure of humility and determination to heal the divides that have held back our progress. As Lincoln said to a nation far more divided than ours, “We are not enemies, but friends…though passion may have strained it must not break our bonds of affection.” And to those Americans whose support I have yet to earn – I may not have won your vote, but I hear your voices, I need your help, and I will be your President too.

And to all those watching tonight from beyond our shores, from parliaments and palaces to those who are huddled around radios in the forgotten corners of our world – our stories are singular, but our destiny is shared, and a new dawn of American leadership is at hand. To those who would tear this world down – we will defeat you. To those who seek peace and security – we support you. And to all those who have wondered if America’s beacon still burns as bright – tonight we proved once more that the true strength of our nation comes not from our the might of our arms or the scale of our wealth, but from the enduring power of our ideals: democracy, liberty, opportunity, and unyielding hope.

For that is the true genius of America – that America can change. Our union can be perfected. And what we have already achieved gives us hope for what we can and must achieve tomorrow.
This election had many firsts and many stories that will be told for generations. But one that’s on my mind tonight is about a woman who cast her ballot in Atlanta. She’s a lot like the millions of others who stood in line to make their voice heard in this election except for one thing – Ann Nixon Cooper is 106 years old.

She was born just a generation past slavery; a time when there were no cars on the road or planes in the sky; when someone like her couldn’t vote for two reasons – because she was a woman and because of the color of her skin.

And tonight, I think about all that she’s seen throughout her century in America – the heartache and the hope; the struggle and the progress; the times we were told that we can’t, and the people who pressed on with that American creed: Yes we can.

At a time when women’s voices were silenced and their hopes dismissed, she lived to see them stand up and speak out and reach for the ballot. Yes we can.

When there was despair in the dust bowl and depression across the land, she saw a nation conquer fear itself with a New Deal, new jobs and a new sense of common purpose. Yes we can.
When the bombs fell on our harbor and tyranny threatened the world, she was there to witness a generation rise to greatness and a democracy was saved. Yes we can.

She was there for the buses in Montgomery, the hoses in Birmingham, a bridge in Selma, and a preacher from Atlanta who told a people that “We Shall Overcome.” Yes we can.

A man touched down on the moon, a wall came down in Berlin, a world was connected by our own science and imagination. And this year, in this election, she touched her finger to a screen, and cast her vote, because after 106 years in America, through the best of times and the darkest of hours, she knows how America can change. Yes we can.

America, we have come so far. We have seen so much. But there is so much more to do. So tonight, let us ask ourselves – if our children should live to see the next century; if my daughters should be so lucky to live as long as Ann Nixon Cooper, what change will they see? What progress will we have made?

This is our chance to answer that call. This is our moment. This is our time – to put our people back to work and open doors of opportunity for our kids; to restore prosperity and promote the cause of peace; to reclaim the American Dream and reaffirm that fundamental truth – that out of many, we are one; that while we breathe, we hope, and where we are met with cynicism, and doubt, and those who tell us that we can’t, we will respond with that timeless creed that sums up the spirit of a people: Yes We Can.

Thank you, God bless you, and may God Bless the United States of America.

06 November, 2008

進入公司前...後...

進入公司前:

老闆:萬分歡迎,沒有你我們的公司肯定大不一樣!

職員:如果工作太累,搞不好我會辭職的

老闆:放心,我不會讓這樣的事情發生的!

職員:我週休二日可以休息嗎?

老闆:當然了!這是最基本的!

職員:平時會天天加班到淩晨嗎?

老闆:不可能,誰告訴你的?

職員:有餐費補貼嗎?

老闆:還用說嗎,絕對比同行都高!

職員:有沒有工作猝死的風險?

老闆:不會!你怎麼會有這種念頭?

職員:公司會定期組織旅遊嗎?

老闆:這是我們的明文規定!

職員:我需要準時上班嗎?

老闆:不,看情況吧

職員:工資呢?會準時發嗎?

老闆:一向如此!

職員:事情全是新員工做嗎?

老闆:怎麼可能,你上頭還有很多資深同事!

職員:如果管理職位有空缺,我可以參與競爭嗎?

老闆:毫無疑問 ,這是我們公司賴以生存的機制!

職員:你不會是在騙我吧?

進入公司後: 從後往前讀

05 November, 2008

七言絕詩

失業半年返職場,湯雞還神燒炮仗,開工本應喜洋洋,誰知世態變炎涼 ·
掃地阿嬸識雞腸,看更得過文學獎,學士碩士唔馨香,皆因博士也在場
助理一職百人搶,人工一定唔理想,五六仟蚊算中上,十二個月無雙糧 ·
萬人之下一人上,簽約兩年要裝香,資源增值假現象,強逼發揮你所長 ·
冷氣滴水修故障,電腦中毒你當殃,修理馬桶最平常,老細座架要保養
打字影印寫文章,有空送信兼抹窗,早場做到午夜場,七天工作真無良 ·
週一驗貨到南昌,週二見客在新疆,週三蒙古收爛賬,週四重慶釘木箱 ·
週五東莞曬臘腸,週六返港天已亮,週日加班無補賞,晚上終於胃潰瘍 ·
對住老板要讚賞,對應上司扮羔羊,對付下屬要表揚,對待同事要禮讓 ·
公司文化漸端詳,不懂都要頂硬上,同事有功必定搶,下屬有錯不原諒 ·
老細鬧我正粉腸,開會猶如打靶場,比人插到胃氣脹,鬧完仲要拍手掌 ·
返工慘過去當娼,皆因形勢比人強,無奈只有扮智障,只為月底那份糧 ·
笑臉迎人裝模樣,像是置身於歡場,這種壓力無法想,長此下去會缺氧 ·
打算請假來休養,老細面孔像晚娘,再講除非嫌命長,返回座位暗神傷 ·
妻兒少見無印象,晚餐白飯豆瓣醬,家裡只有四面牆,卡啦OK 廁所唱 ·
身心疲累自惆悵,真想回鄉去插秧,或是少林當和尚,不知不覺進夢鄉
夢裡見到文天祥,廟前幫人看面相,招手要我捧個場,端詳面相看手掌
贈言我來日方長,各行各業可多嘗,虛心學習要忍讓,只要奮發心向上
挖角升職薪水漲,有家有樓有車輛,撥開雲霧見太陽,天空海闊任飛翔 ·
臨行美金作打賞,天祥雙眼直發亮,睜眼還是四面牆,身旁還是孩子娘 ·
擦牙洗面打開窗,早餐多士凍鴛鴦,以上所講無誇張,全是打工眾生相 ·

04 November, 2008

I really like him....a man who can say something like this from the bottom of his heart cannot go too wrong as a president


【明報專訊】奧巴馬的外婆在大選前夕離世,令他最後的一日拉票活動添了傷感氣氛。他在競選集會上落淚稱讚外婆是美國眾多默默貢獻的「沉默英雄」之一,並發誓一旦當選,將為所有「沉默英雄」工作。

奧巴馬周一上午在佛州獲悉外婆鄧納姆(Madelyn Dunham)去世的消息。他後來在北卡羅萊納州一個集會上,向數以千計支持者表示,患有癌症的鄧納姆在睡眠中安詳辭世。他語帶哀傷地說﹕「她正在回家,我們在喜悅中亦有眼淚。」

奧巴馬憶述外婆的生平,談起她的婚姻,她與奧巴馬外公如何捱過大蕭條、如何帶奧巴馬母親捱過二戰,「她是那種很謙卑很直率的人……她是那種在全美國都有的沉默英雄。他們不出名,名字不在報紙上,但他們每天努力工作,照顧家庭,為子孫們做出犧牲……在人群裏有很多這樣的沉默英雄……」

「這正是美國的精神」,奧巴馬呼喊道,「這正是我們為之奮鬥的……還有一天……我們就可以為美國帶來轉變,讓全美國的沉默英雄得到尊重!」

86歲的鄧納姆在奧巴馬成長過程裏起了重要作用。奧巴馬小時候大部分時間與她一起生活。奧巴馬曾說,外婆對他的性格和人生觀有很大影響。鄧納姆的健康在上個月惡化,奧巴馬曾暫停競選活動,到夏威夷看望她。

法新社

這一代家長的卑哀

I found the following article on a blog...tells exactly why I am so reluctant to have baby....



我要做Portfolio 了, 不是藝術工作者存放作品的 Portfolio, 也不是近日計身家少了一截的 Investment Portfolio, 而是幫米米做的小一入學試 Portfolio
Portfolio 是甚麼呢, 就是孩子報讀小學的個人履歷, 好像揾工用的CV
不明白, 一個早晚還要找奶喝, 玩得忘形時會忘記上厠所的四歲小娃
可以有甚麼個人成就能放進 Portfolio 內
Portfolio 放些甚麼呢, 除了幼稚園的成績表外, 就是林林種種的課外活動證書, 名校對課外活動要求很高, 小孩子参加得越多越好, 所以我們這些望子成龍的家長, 就一窩蜂的把小朋友的課餘時間填滿了興趣班, 你以為證書很巴閉嗎, 其實只要上夠班, 自動有證書, 換句話
小孩子 Portfolio 裏證書夠不夠, 就看你老子錢袋重不重, 那些夠米請個私人司機加貼身賓賓服侍小主人一天跑三個 playgroup 的, 自然證書滿瀉, 跟小孩肚子裡有多少斤兩沒多大關係
很多課外活動課程為了吸引家長, 會積極舉辦比賽表演, 終極目的是找個藉口分派豬肉獎狀, 好讓 Portfolio 又多項功名, 話說去年米米的芭蕾舞學校頒了「飛躍進步獎」給她, 朋友恭喜我, 我說班上十個小朋友有七個拿了這個獎, 有甚麼好恭喜
姐姐的個案更好笑, 她的小女兒参加了白雪公主表演, 我笑她, 是不是飾演七個小矮人身後那棵草呀, 姐姐說, 我個女飾演白雪公主噯
我立即肅然起敬,然後她訕笑: 班上所有女孩子都是白雪公主噯
哇哈哈哈哈哈哈
你以為家長看不穿整個 system 的運作嗎, 但在沒有選擇的情況下
我們都閉上嘴巴打開銀包, 跟著這個浪潮浮沉, 最令人沮喪
就是彈鋼琴畫圖畫這些活動已經是標準基本要求, 要考進名校
最緊要出奇制勝, 孩子們現在學甚麼 Kumon, Phonics, 珠算
在我的年代簡直聽也未聽過, 音樂呢, 要學 trumpet, timpani, 古箏
我看遲早送他們去跳水跳傘再加花式飛行才差不多

米米可以有甚麼過人之處呢, 我抓破頭也想不到
我們這些媽媽, 走在一起便長嗟短歎, 慨歎成為這個不人道的系统的犧牲品, 但一轉頭, 便積極打聽哪個課程 popular, 一面大聲的自我安慰「我才不稀罕孩子入名校」, 一面卻默默的在校友會籌款活動中穿起圍裙賣曲奇
所以, 我放棄扮清高, 乾脆由 Day One 便承認, 無錯, 我會盡我所能, 幫米米考好學校, 尤其是我的母校, 這不是 ashamed 的事, 這是做母親的責任
隨波逐流, 唉 …
請不要笑我

30 October, 2008

婚姻存摺

我的『婚姻存摺』是出嫁那天,媽媽遞到我手上的,當時我以為會是一大筆錢,打開一看發現只有1000元,我用失望的眼神看著媽媽,媽媽卻笑著說:「這是我特意為你們辦理的『婚姻存摺』,以後每逢值得紀念的日子,都可以存一筆錢,等到老的時候,裡面除了錢,還有無限的幸福。」

當時,我對母親這份心思不以為然,倒是丈夫記在了心上。

婚後沒多久,他就先後存了兩個500元,一個是因為他升職了,第二個是因為我手術治愈出院。當時我嘴上笑他無聊,其實心裡甜蜜無比,畢竟他把我的健康也當作一件讓他感到幸福的事。

沒過多久,我懷孕了,這一次,我足足往裡面存了2000元。

但很快,我們開始有了爭吵和冷漠;孩子出生帶來的快樂是短暫的,洗不完的尿布、餵不完的奶,進一步加劇了我們感情的惡化。

而那本『婚姻存摺』像被遺忘了,寂寞地躺在抽屜角落,上面的數字久未見漲。

我們鬧離婚的時候,媽媽說:「你們先把存摺上面的錢花光了再離吧,雖然錢不多,但是你們共同的財產。」

於是,我第一次取了1000元,然後拎著幾件心儀已久的衣服離開商場時,我又回去對售貨小姐說:「對不起,我不買了,請你退回我剛才付給你的錢。」

也許當時的局面窘迫極了,但我腦海裡想到的是那1000元婚姻積蓄的來源:

他是個害羞的男人,但曾在街頭大聲地對我說「我愛你」,我為此存下100元;

他記得我的生日、鞋號、密碼及最怕的事,我為此在生日那天存下300元;

他對女人有風度,也有距離,不給暗戀他的女下屬任何機會,我為此存下500元…!

想到這1000元裡就有這麼多的幸福積累,再看看婚姻存摺上的兩萬多元,我的眼睛忽然就有些濕潤起來。

晚上回到家,我把存摺交給他,說:「趕緊花吧,花光了好離婚!」

第二天晚上,他把存摺遞到我手上,我打開一看,發現反而多了1000元。

他說:「那上面的每一元錢都記錄著我們走過的歷程,我第一次發覺原來是這樣的愛你,索性又存進了1000元。」

我們從此又和好如初了!

16 October, 2008

人生

人生吧....


0 歲出場

10 歲快樂成長

20 為情彷徨

30 基本定向

40 拼命打闖

50 回頭望望

60 告老還鄉

70 搓搓麻將

80 曬曬太陽

90 躺在床上

100 掛在牆上 ...

09 October, 2008

New Stock Market Terms

CEO --Chief Embezzlement Officer.
CFO-- Corporate Fraud Officer.
BULL MARKET -- A random market movement causing an investor to mistake himself for a financial genius.
BEAR MARKET -- A 6 to 18 month period when the kids get no allowance, the wife gets no jewelry, and the husband gets no sex.
VALUE INVESTING -- The art of buying low and selling lower.
P/E RATIO -- The percentage of investors wetting their pants as the market keeps crashing.
BROKER -- What my broker has made me.
STANDARD & POOR -- Your life in a nutshell.
STOCK ANALYST -- Idiot who just downgraded your stock. S
TOCK SPLIT -- When your ex-wife and her lawyer split your assets equally between themselves.
FINANCIAL PLANNER -- A guy whose phone has been disconnected.
MARKET CORRECTION -- The day after you buy stocks.
CASH FLOW-- The movement your money makes as it disappears down the toilet.
YAHOO -- What you yell after selling it to some poor sucker for $240 per share.
WINDOWS -- What you jump out of when you're the sucker who bought Yahoo @ $240 per share.
INSTITUTIONAL INVESTOR -- Past year investor who's now locked up in a nuthouse.
PROFIT -- An archaic word no longer in use.

對基督徒非常有幫助的29條建議

1. 下次如果覺得自己了不起時,試試行在水上。
2. 當魔鬼提醒你的過去時,請提醒牠的未來。
3. 你不是幸運,而是蒙福。
4. 若想要得著復活的生命,就要知道自己是已經與基督同死了。
5. 機會也許只敲一次門,但試探卻總是在按門鈴。
6. 我們常在強壯時,忘了 神。
7. 那些只在星期天呼喚'天父'的人,在一星期餘下的日子裏活得像孤兒。
8. 不要以自我為中心,要以基督為中心。
9. 沒有基督,沒有平安;認識基督,得到平安。
10. 為什麼我們不常向朋友提起 神?因為我們不常向 神提起我們的朋友。
11. 當把你的一切獻給基督,因為祂把祂的一切都給了你。
12. 你現在所追求的,值得基督為它死嗎?
13. 使你向 神靠近的人,是你真正的朋友。
14. 神愛我們,不是因為我們是怎樣一個人,而是因為祂是怎樣一位 神。
15. 神的應許像夜空裏的星星。夜越深,星星的光芒越亮。
16. 沒有基督的生命,是無望的盡頭。有基督的生命,是無盡的盼望。
17. 我雖不知道未來掌管著什麼,但我知道誰掌管著未來。
18. 把你的重擔交給主,讓它留在主那裏。
19. 不要畏懼明天,因為上帝已在那裏。
20. 當你除了 神,一無所有時,你將知道 神就是你全部的需要。
21. 放手交給上帝,別再向 神講述你的風暴有多大,當向風暴講述你的 神有多大。
22. 能夠滿足人心的,是造人心的那一位。
23. .請常常保持著你心裏的光,因為你不知道,誰會藉著這光走出黑暗。
24. 當我們只顧工作的時候,我們獨自工作;當我們祈禱的時候, 神工作。
25. 神無所不在,所以我們可以隨處禱告。
26. 一個沒有需要的人永遠見不到神跡。
27. 敬拜提醒我們生命的價值,但世界卻使我們忘記它。
28. 步履艱難的時候,別一味的禱告,卻不邁向 神要你走的路。
29. 禱告會為我們作很多事,憂慮同樣可以

40 tips for life

1. Take a 10-30 minute walk every day. And while you walk, smile. It is the ultimate anti-depressant.


2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.


3. Buy a DVR and tape your late night shows and get more sleep.


4. When you wake up in the morning complete the following statement, 'My purpose is to __________ today.'


5. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.


6. Play more games and read more books than you did in 2007.


7. Make time to practice meditation, and prayer.They provide us with daily fuel for our busy lives.


8. Spend time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of 6.


9. Dream more while you are awake.


10. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.


11. Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat blueberries, wild Alaskan salmon, broccoli, almonds & walnuts.


12. Try to make at least three people smile each day.


13. Clear clutter from your house, your car, your desk and let new and flowing energy into your life.


14. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip, OR issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.


15. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a life time.


16. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a college kid with a maxed out charge card.


17. Smile and laugh more. It will keep the NEGATIVE BLUES away.


18. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

20. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

21. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.


22. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.

23.. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

24. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

25. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: 'In five years, will this matter?'


26. Forgive everyone for everything.


27. What other people think of you is none of your business.


28. REMEMBER, GOD heals everything.


29. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.


30. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.


31. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.


32. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.


33. The best is yet to come.


34. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.


35. Do the right thing!


36. Call your family often. (Or email them to death!!!)


37. Each night before you go to bed complete the following statements: I am thankful for __________. Today accomplished _________.


38. Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.


39. Enjoy the ride. Remember this is not Disney World and you certainly don't want a fast pass. You only have one ride through life so make the most of it and enjoy the ride.


40. Please Forward this to everyone you care about. I just did.


Dance as though no one is watching you

Love as though you have never been hurt before

Sing as though no one can hear you

Live as though heaven is on earth.

Remember: Life is short... Break the rules, Forgive quickly, Kiss slowly, Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably, And never regret anything that made you smile.

20 August, 2008

智慧

亞歷山大帶著大軍東征西討,到了非洲深處,出乎意外的,遇到有一地方,全境都是女人居住掌管的地方。

當亞歷山大大帝佈下大兵準備攻擊時,女人國的領袖來見他,對亞歷山大說:「打這場仗,假如你勝了,殺了我們,那麼人們會說,亞歷山大只不過是勝了女人而已。但是萬一你被我們打敗呢?歷史會大肆記載,亞歷山大最後死於女人之手。」

亞歷山大心裡想,這女人講的話是有道理。於是說「我可以放過你們,但請你們給我一些麵包。」

過了不久,一條純金打造的麵包放在一個金盤上,就送來給亞歷山大。亞歷山大看了一眼這閃閃發亮,卻無法品嘗其美味的麵包,嘆了一口氣說:「你們是什麼樣的民族,會用金子來做麵包呢?」

您從那麼遠的地方來,相信你們那裡不會沒有麵包,因此我們以金子打造麵包,代表我們對您最高的敬意。」一個女人回答。

據說,亞歷山大在離開時,在女人國入境的門柱上題刻著「我,馬其頓的亞歷山大,是個愚昧的人,直至來到這裡,才從女人國學到智慧。」


什麼是智慧呢?

智慧是要能在矛盾對立的選擇中,找到適當的平衡立足點。

解決問題需要勇氣,可是不能太魯莽或太懦弱;

要有尊嚴,是不驕傲也不粗俗;

要謙虛,不自大也不卑屈;

要謹慎,不冒昧也不膽怯;要說話,不多言也不寡言;

要用字遣詞,用得恰到好處。

此外,有智慧還能化矛盾為合諧,化危機為轉機,絕處能再逢生。

在亞歷山大與女人的矛盾對立中,金麵包代表的就是用智慧解決問題,找到的一個平衡點。如果女人國在亞歷山大要求麵包時,貢上可吃的麵包,那麼也就表示她們臣服於亞歷山大,亞歷山大不費一兵一卒,就戰勝了她們。可是她們也不能拒絕或得罪亞歷山大,於是她們按照亞歷山大要求的,換給他一個更昂貴的禮物,如此女人國還略佔了上風,因為她們把本來表示她們臣服於亞歷山大的麵包,換成象徵她們的勇氣和自主權的金麵包。

在軍事上,她們也許比不上亞歷山大,但在政治謀略上,她們卻毫不遜色,而且略勝一籌呢。

這故事說明了解決問題的關鍵不在權勢力量,運用邏輯和智慧,甚至能抵擋最強大的軍事武力。亞歷山大代表世上的強權力量或十分難解決的問題,沒有人能用武力征服亞歷山大,他是被智慧所征服的。另外,在故事裡,亞歷山大知道他能從女人學習智慧,就虛心接受,甚至承認自己是愚昧的人。真正有智慧的人要能有雅量虛心學習,不管學習對象是男人或女人,強者或弱者,甚至是被你征服的人。

21 July, 2008

婚姻

初戀總是寶貴的,令人難忘的,遺憾的是,十有八九的初戀,都不能成為婚姻, 因為不能成為婚姻,初戀又顯得更為寶貴,讓人回味無窮。

阿偉是一位心臟科醫生,和太太結婚二十年,兒子已入大學。 在一次大學舊生會,重遇初戀情人Alice。Alice當年是眾男生的夢中情人,公認 的美人兒。就是現在,仍比實際年齡漂亮年輕。當初,為了一個誤會,再加兩人 的自尊心特強,就這樣分開了。後來,Alice去了外國,阿偉留在香港。初戀的夭 折,一度令阿偉痛苦不已,幾乎垮了,幸虧得一位護士同事的關心和鼓勵,令他 於走出感情低谷,重拾心情,這位女同事就成了他的太太。

不料二十年後重逢Alice。那晚,他們談了很多,解除了誤會,只是,大家都已人 到中年!次日,Alice打電話邀阿偉去淺水灣酒店燭光晚餐, 阿偉問:「是不是請我太太一起去?」 Alice回答:「我只想請你一個人,我們已失卻太多時光,現在是彌補的時候「對不起,除了因公事,晚上我一般不單獨外出吃晚飯。」 「你不是怕老婆吧?」Alice譏諷他。 我怕老婆!」他直認不諱。「我好怕不自覺地令她不開心。」

幾日後,Alice又特地讓速遞公司送來一封信,信封上寫明要他親啟,並且注 明:only for you!阿偉將信原封退回。 「本來,我會讓太太也看這封信的,既然你不希望她看,我也不看了。我已習慣 與她分享生活中的一切喜怒哀樂。」

Alice很不忿氣。她見過阿偉的太太,已中年發福,且不擅修飾,像個屋村師奶, 相反,自己比實際年齡要年輕得多,風韻猶存。當年阿偉追她追得這樣熱烈,他 不可能對她失卻feeling的,一定是阿偉的太太兇神惡煞。 她一不做二不休,當 下親身到他診所。

阿偉,你只需講yes or no。你仍對我有 feeling 嗎?你還愛我嗎?你以前是十分愛我的。」

阿偉只笑笑。「愛一個人與恨一個人同樣需要精力和能力。感情過去了,應該無 愛無恨,古人說,一笑泯恩愁。讓已過去的、無法改變的事實影響目前,根本毫 無好處。我已將我的全部愛分給我的家人,而且,我已過了這種玩浪漫感情的年 紀。」

Alice仍不死心。「你真的愛你太太?還是僅出於一種義務和責任?賽過當年對我 那份初戀之情?」

「我是醫生。我相信一種科學說法,真正的愛只能維持十個月,正好是由胚胎到 嬰兒哇哇出世所需的時日。這或許是從生物進化的角度來解釋。但愛不同愛情,愛,或許是一種由荷爾蒙分泌而激發出的感情反應,一如我們悲傷會流淚,開心會 微笑,是一種很生物式的感情反應。用一個不合適的比喻:雄性動物在追求異性 時,毛 會特別亮麗,叫聲也會特別悅耳愛,只是一種行為,動物也懂得用舔觸等 動作表示『愛』,然而,唯有愛情,才是人類獨有的能力。一個情字,令人類愛 的行為,變得成熟、深沉,由一種單一的行為上升為一種情懷。我很懷念我們的 初戀,但我更珍惜我和太太的婚姻,珍惜我們一起走過的這段路。」

阿偉的思路非常清晰,不愧是位名醫生。他十分明白,當初,在他感情最低谷、 最消沉時,是現在的太太給他溫暖,喚起他的信心。後來,太太省吃儉用,自己 帶著兒子獨守空巢,支持阿偉外出留學深造。這二十來年,是太太伴他走過來 的。太太全心於這個家上,無心顧及自己的儀容、衣著,她將每一分一秒,都花 在家人身上。而且,太太屬於那種生活低調,安於做男人背後的女人那種類型。 阿偉不想太太為了他而刻意改變自己,做她不喜歡做的事。因為愛她,他也尊重 她,由她選擇她自己喜歡的生活方式。

「我們互相看著白髮開始萌生,皺紋出現,因為這後面包含著許多只有我們兩人知道的故事,孩子的出世,我們第一間屋的喬遷,雙方父母病故的哀痛,我們升 職,她的一次有驚無險的大手術……點點滴滴都寫在她和我的皺紋上,也只有她和 我才懂得。至於你,Alice,我很懷念那段我們花樣的年華,但我不會用現在幸福 充實的家庭生活去交換那段時日的延續,這只有百害而無一利。如果我們都珍惜 我們的初戀,珍惜這次難得的二十年後的重逢,我們就這樣互相握手、互道『珍 重』吧!」

Alice聽了這番話,默默擁抱了阿偉,轉頭就走。

人說,蒼蠅不叮無縫的蛋。 今天婚外情、一夜情泛濫, 但這絕成不了你忽略她、冷淡她的理由。 珍惜你與她一起走過的路, 而你對她的愛,會如醇酒,愈陳舊愈香

Life ~ Rick Warren

You will enjoy the new insights that Rick Warren has, with his wife nowhaving cancer and him having 'wealth' from the book sales. This is anabsolutely incredible short interview with Rick Warren,'Purpose Driven Life ' author and pastor of Saddleback Church inCalifornia

In the interview by Paul Bradshaw with Rick Warren, Rick said:
People ask me, What is the purpose of life? And I respond: In anutshell, life is preparation for eternity. We were not made to lastforever, and God wants us to be with Him in Heaven.

One day my heart is going to stop, and that will be the end of my body--but not the end of me.
I may live 60 to 100 years on earth, but I am going to spend trillionsof years in eternity. This is the warm-up act - the dress rehearsal. Godwants us to practice on earth what we will do forever in eternity.

We were made by God and for God, and until you figure that out, lifeisn't going to make sense.
Life is a series of problems: Either you are in one now, you're justcoming out of one, or you're getting ready to go into another one..

The reason for this is that God is more interested in your characterthan your comfort.
God is more interested in making your life holy than He is in makingyour life happy.
We can be reasonably happy here on earth, but that's not the goal oflife. The goal is to grow in character, in Christ likeness.

This past year has been the greatest year of my life but also thetoughest, with my wife, Kay, getting cancer. I used to think that life was hills and valleys - you go through a darktime, then you go to the mountaintop, back and forth. I don't believethat anymore.

Rather than life being hills and valleys, I believe that it's kind oflike two rails on a railroad track, and at all times you have somethinggood and something bad in your life.

No matter how good things are in your life, there is always somethingbad that needs to be worked on.

And no matter how bad things are in your life, there is always somethinggood you can thank God for.

You can focus on your purposes, or you can focus on your problems.
If you focus on your problems, you're going intoself-centeredness,'which is my problem, my issues, my pain.' But one ofthe easiest ways to get rid of pain is to get your focus off yourselfand onto God and others.

We discovered quickly that in spite of the prayers of hundreds ofthousands of people, God was not going to heal Kay or make it easy forher.

It has been very difficult for her, and yet God has strengthened her character, given her a ministry of helping other people, given her atestimony, drawn her closer to Him and to people.
You have to learn to deal with both the good and the bad of life.

Actually, sometimes learning to deal with the good is harder. Forinstance, this past year, all of a sudden, when the book sold 15 millioncopies, it made me instantly very wealthy.
It also brought a lot of notoriety that I had never had to deal withbefore. I don't think God gives you money or notoriety for your own ego or for you to live a life of ease.

So I began to ask God what He wanted me to do with this money, notorietyand influence. He gave me two different passages that helped me decidewhat to do, II Corinthians 9 and Psalm 72

First, in spite of all the money coming in, we would not change ourlifestyle one bit.. We made no major purchases.
Second, about midway through last year, I stopped taking a salary fromthe church.
Third, we set up foundations to fund an initiative we call The PeacePlan to plant churches, equip leaders, assist the poor, care for thesick, and educate the next generation.
Fourth, I added up all that the chu rch had paid me in the 24 yearssince I started the church, and I gave it all back. It was liberating tobe able to serve God for free.

We need to ask ourselves: Am I going to live for possessions?Popularity?
Am I going to be driven by pressures? Guilt? Bitterness? Materialism? Oram I going to be driven by God's purposes (for my life)?

When I get up in the morning, I sit on the side of my bed and say, God,if I don't get anything else done today, I want to know You more andlove You better. God didn't put me on earth just to fulfill a to-dolist. He's more interested in what I am than what I do.That's why we're called human beings, not human doings.

Happy moments, PRAISE GOD.
Difficult moments, SEEK GOD.
Quiet moments, WORSHIP GOD.
Painful moments, TRUST GOD.
Every moment, THANK GOD.
May God's Blessings on you today.

02 July, 2008

11 things they did not teach you at school...~ Bill Gates

Bill Gates recently gave a speech to High School students about 11 things they did not and will not learn in school.

He talks about how feel-good, politically correct teachings created a generation of kids with no concept of reality and how this concept set them up for failure in the real world.

Rule 1: Life is not fair - get used to it!

Rule 2 : The world won't care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won't be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: they called it opportunity.

Rule 6: If you mess up, it's not your parents' fault, so don't whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent's generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished fail in grades and they'll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn't bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.

Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11: Be nice to Nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one!


How true....he IS a genius

08 May, 2008

Edison


Edison is now a brother in christ. Praise the lord.
Read the following copy from the blog of Jaeson Ma (nephew of Ma Si Hang)


Pray for Edison Chen, Me and the World
Dear Bros and Sis in Christ,I have a very urgent and special prayer request. For nearly 2 months now I have not announced publicly, even to my prayer team to protect the confidentiality of the fragile situation I am about to tell you. In February the Holy Spirit led me supernaturally to a special young man named "Edison Chen." He is a famous pop star in Hong Kong and China who recently this year was involved in a internet sex scandal that received worldwide attention. My heart broke for this young man when I heard the news. I prayed for him to find the love of God and the forgiveness that is offered through Jesus Christ. I also prayed that God would use this situation for greater good, somehow to redeem and bless the youth and families of Asia. Through a series of divine circumstances in February God brought me to Edison, I shared the Gospel and God's personal prophetic word to him and Edison gave his life to Christ. His heart was genuine, his repentance was true, and I was so happy to see a new brother find God's forgiveness, mercy and grace. God truly loves Edison. The days after, many others in his family and circle of friends came to know Christ. It was a supernatural experience, that only God could orchestrate.Yesterday night, I found out that one of the largest secular magazines in Hong Kong/Asia had caught wind of Edison's conversion and wrote a front page story on our friendship. I was very much in shock to hear about this because I had not spoken about this publicly for nearly 2 months. I was more surprised when my contact in Hong Kong told me the article was 100% positive, shared about my own conversion experience, my personal ministry and how Edison is starting a new life and new path in Christ. Honestly, when I heard this news knowing that millions all over Asia would read this uplifting article and possibly find Jesus Christ as their personal Lord and Savior, I wept.I wept with joy for Edison and all the millions in Asia who have been negatively effected by the sin & immorality that was spread. I knew God was restoring Edison, a prodigal son who had returned to his heavenly Father. I wept, because God spoke to me when I met Edison that He would bring greater good from this scandal than evil. That what Satan meant for evil, God would turn for good. I am thankful to God because I know millions who read this magazine will see that God has forgiven Edison Chen and all the victims, showing them His love and mercy. Therefore, those who read this article after realizing that God has forgiven Edison, will also realize that Jesus can forgive their sins and give them hope for a new life in Christ. Please pray that God uses this testimony to bless the masses with the power of the Gospel. Good News is spreading in Asia, Jesus died on the cross and resurrected on the third day so our sins could be forgiven and anyone who believes in Him will not die, but have everlasting life. (John 3:16)Now I ask you for prayer. Edison Chen, the Victims and myself need your prayers more than ever before. Please pray for Edison Chen and others...1. Pray for protection from media pressure: There is a lot of pressure with an public article like this to perform as a Christian. Please pray that people realize Edison and others who have become Christian are still a work in progress. As I am a work in progress myself. No one is perfect, we are all human and we all need love and forgiveness. God doesn't expect us to be perfect, but to trust in His mercy and grace. Pray that God would protect this story and situation against gossip, accusation or deception, but only the truth of Jesus Christ would continually be uplifted in the media.2. Please pray millions of Christians around the world would pray for Edison, his family, the victims to be strengthened in faith, comforted and restored to be a testimony to society in a positive way. Pray that the many victims of this situation would also find faith and forgiveness in Christ.3. Pray that many who read this article and story would be saved. Pray that those who read this testimony of Edison's repentance and faith in Christ, my own personal testimony will realize that God loves them also, that they can be forgiven of their sins and have a new life in Jesus Christ. Pray as they realize God has forgiven Edison, He will also forgive them.4. Pray that my family and I would be a great testimony for Christ. Please pray that God would protect and help me and my family in America and Hong Kong to be good witnesses for Christ. I am returning to Hong Kong in May for ministry and I need God's wisdom in how to talk about this story to others so that they see Christ and not me or anyone else. May He keep me, Edison and all others humble, so that we decrease but Christ would increase.5. Ask God to turn what was meant for evil into good. Pray that through this scandal, that greater good would come out of this than evil. Pray that millions will be inspired, touched and put their faith in Jesus Christ across the world. This scandal was probably one of the biggest news stories in Asia in the last decade, many were adversely affected, but God now can turn the tide and bring hope and healing to all the world and turn tragedy into triumph!Lastly, I just really want you all to keep this low key and simply "pray" if you read this. Pray for Edison, he is like a brother to me. I love him and he has a good heart. Many people will try to ridicule or doubt what has happened, but it doesn't matter because I know him and he is not only truly repentant, but he is doing his best to become a better man, change his ways, and live for God. He is a good person. We all make mistakes. I urge the public who reads this, judge not or you will be judged as the Bible says. Forgive Edison, the victims and ask God to forgive your own sins, because none of us are perfect and we all need Jesus forgiveness. Edison is a good man, God loves him, knows his heart is truly sorry and will restore him to be a great role model in society. I know it, I have faith not only for him but for all who are affected by this. Pray for Edison's spiritual restoration. Because t's not easy, Edison, his family, his friends and myself are all God's work in progress and we need prayers, patience, mercy and grace from everyone to not point the finger, gossip or anything else, but to simply pray asking God to make us more like Christ each day and to be a testimony for Him in this generation. May God receive all the glory in this.Below is the magazine article. God is faithful. Please pray right now for God's will to be done. Thank you!

資深大律師


Few days ago my boss was admitted to be the senior counsel of HKSAR. "SC" used to be titled as "QC, or Queen's Counsel" before the handover. It represents not only seniority in the profession, highest level of advocacy and top knowledge in the law but also personal integrity, conscience and the ultimate dedication and leadership in the profession.
I am so proud, not only because he is my boss but also he is the first SC that i work so closely with.
His path is not easy. He graduated from science school and was a court prosecutor before. He never look down on himself and work his way up. His achievement is an encouragement for many in the younger generation.

14 April, 2008

經歷使我成長 ~~ 王祖藍

我今年廿七歲,高五呎四吋,個子小,聲音大。香港電視觀眾對我的印象較深刻,因為我主持兒童節目,也唱歌,近年還拍劇集。

從小我不擅長運動,但唱歌、辯論、演戲,凡是用口的,樣樣都喜愛。所以,雖然並不高大威猛,風頭倒也不弱。老師曾在我的成績單上批:「很有領袖才能,但宜謙卑。」意即我有點驕傲。其實這只是自卑感作祟,因我自忖身材不高,有補償心理,總想在別的事上與人一較高下。
我家並不富有,不過父母對我們兒女關懷備至。他們都覺得我聽話,學業和比賽成績都好,且能言善道,做人也好像頗負責任。他們不覺得我有毛病,因為他們看不見我的內心世界。

荳芽夢醒
我為人感性、早熟,小小年紀,便對愛情有所憧憬——可能因愛看電影和愛聽流行曲的緣故,滿腦子都是浪漫的愛情故事。荳芽夢始自十二、三歲,便與女孩子拍拖,而她們也覺得我老實可靠
十六、七歲時,我與合唱團一位團友正式交往,她年齡比我小。我們交往了一兩年。但那時根本不知道甚麼是愛,只覺得很喜歡和她在一起,希望她一生一世只愛我一個人——即或將來我對她不好,或另有女友,她都要情比金堅,永遠愛我。當然,這是極自私的想法。結果就是分手,因為她不能忍受我。失去了才懂珍惜,才想到對方其實是個很好的女孩,而且對我很好,可惜已無法挽回。

轉捩點
一九九八年,我十七歲,中學畢業,考進演藝學院。與女友分手後,才開始認真尋求上帝。兒時也去過教會,但不穩定;稍長,要兼職,就不去聚會了。一天在回家路上,車子正停在九龍城浸信會門前,我不由自主地走進去;看見一位女傳道,面貌慈祥,正唱著我小學時唱過的詩歌。當時的感覺彷彿回到了小學時代。那位女傳道,就像我小學一年級時的女校長。校長很疼我,上音樂課時,常特地過來聽我唱歌,她也教聖經。想起以前的女校長,頓時重拾兒時那種純潔的感覺,反省現在的自己是多麼的污穢。其實,我很渴望單純,可惜由於受環境的污染和內心的私慾交迫,漸漸失去純真。散會後,我立刻趨前,請女傳道介紹我一個適合的團契。之後參加團契,導師林文福講「愛情的等候」,正適合我,便留了下來。
不少人說,演藝學院是基督徒的墳墓。因為讀藝術很容易受存在主義、後現代主義、思想的開放、藝術的沉醉所影響,會容易離開上帝。感謝上帝保守,為我安排一群愛主的基督徒彼此守望相助,互相勉勵提醒,使我在演藝學院五年,靈命漸漸扎根。記得當時特別求上帝改變我那張永不饒人的嘴巴。過去我總喜歡挖苦、譏諷、爭辯,漸漸學會用口祝福、與人分享。現在弟兄姊妹都願意找我談話,和我分享。
當時我所參加的團契有各階層人士:窮的、富的、家庭破碎的、精神有問題的... ...聽他們分享,覺得自己很幸福。但不知如何幫助他們,因不了解他們。於是禱告上帝,說:「上帝呀,如果祢真要用我,請考驗我吧。我沒有甚麼經歷,不懂得怎樣幫助他們。」

失敗後學習
禱告以後,隔了幾天,收到以前女友給我的一封電郵,叫我別再找她,說我找她一次,她就傷心一次;又說,我根本不懂她。事緣我去教會以後,仍與她聯絡,常對她說:「我很愛妳,現正在教會學習何謂愛。」卻不知道二人都變了,跟以前不同了。
我留意她寫電郵的時間,正是我禱告上帝的那晚,於是覺得,這是上帝給我的答覆和考驗,心裡釋放,並感謝天父讓我知道,一個人犯了錯,後果須自己承當。我也感謝上帝,當時我還年輕,尚不至悔之已晚。我明白,那次我很傷害對方,也很傷害自己。之後更知自己有很多軟弱,不禁暗問:為甚麼男人會這樣?為甚麼一個年輕的男孩子可以這樣?
從前,我看不見自己的黑暗面,總以為能用驕傲掩蓋自卑。感謝上帝,讓我在演藝學院讀戲劇時,看到很多人性的軟弱。反觀自己,心裡有驕傲、自私、敗壞、情慾、操控慾... ...,我承認,我本來就是這樣醜陋。感謝主耶穌赦免我,拯救我,給我機會從頭開始,在主裡學習。
從那次戀愛失敗至今,我在感情上時有起伏。但在主耶穌裡我學會怎樣保護對方,同時也了解自己是否真愛對方。現在縱使很喜歡一個女孩,也須在上帝面前等候,因和她在一起並不一定對她有利。我應該學習為她的利益著想。例如:現在表達,談戀愛,是否適合呢?以前我不懂想這些,聖經卻說得很清楚:「愛是恆久忍耐,又有恩慈;愛是不嫉妒;不自誇,不張狂,不作害羞的事,不求自己的益處... ...。」(哥林多前書十三4至8)我得好好消化,並且實踐。

更大考驗
誰料更大考驗還在後頭。一九九九年十二月,演藝學院有個藝術交流,我們去廣州演出。出發前一週,爸爸不在家。我問媽,她說爸去潛水了。爸爸和我興趣不同,他是個運動健兒,喜歡騎馬、駕摩托車、滑浪風帆、潛水、打壁球等。所以我沒懷疑,並如期出發。
一星期後,回到家裡,見爸媽弟妹四人都在,很是快樂,便口若懸河地告訴他們廣州之行的所見所聞。卻見他們個個木無表情,不覺心裡納悶。後來爸支開弟妹,告訴我,他患了癌症。真是晴天霹靂!原來,我去廣州前那一個多星期,爸進了醫院,切除腸腫瘤,接著又做化療等。媽不想影響我去廣州的演出,沒告訴任何人,連一個親戚也不通知,因我是家中長子,怕他們會告訴我。直等到我走後,媽才將爸患癌的事告訴親朋。原來爸媽在十一月底已知道這個消息,媽忍著近一個月不告訴人,心裡多苦!我回家後,電話響個不停,很多親戚打電話來,都談及爸患病的事。想到爸媽忍了一個多月,而我竟一無所知,不禁泣不成聲。

林傳道知道後,和我禱告。當時家中只有我和妹妹是基督徒。教會弟兄姊妹都很關心,介紹醫生,送藥物,送補品,常常家訪、分享。幸好在前幾年我的靈命在基督裡扎了根,知道這是屬靈的爭戰,於是提醒自己,無論遭遇甚麼事,都依靠上帝,這樣心裡漸漸寧靜。
過了一年多,爸爸掃瞄後得知一切平安;雖仍不信耶穌,也很接納弟兄姊妹的關懷,聽他們分享信仰經歷。後來醫生說,爸可以接受大腸接駁手術。爸爸很開心,以為可像從前一樣,不必整天掛著個袋子,甚或能再去潛水、打球... ...。我們一家都很高興。手術前一天,大家還在一起開玩笑。怎料次日開刀,打開肚子,發現癌細胞已經擴散。頓時全家陷入愁雲慘霧,仿似從天堂被打落地獄。對爸爸來說,更是很大打擊。對我也是重創。因我期望上帝憐憫醫治爸爸,祂卻不理,實在太叫人失望了!

發脾氣
回想過去一年多,我常陪著爸爸進出醫院,很熱切地向周圍的人傳福音。那時好像很有信心,又覺得上帝與爸爸同在。但這天晚上,我竟忍不住向上帝發脾氣說:「我很不願意再向祢禱告!我不願意向祢禱告了... ...理性上我知道祢一定會賜福給我,但感情上我無法接受。如果祢在,請告訴我!」那天晚上,我不停問上帝:「祢在哪裡?」
那夜,睡在爸鄰床的,是個十七歲的少年。他腸內生了二百多粒息肉。已凌晨兩點多鐘了,他還翻來覆去,無法安寢,好像很痛苦的樣子。以往我看見這種情況,一定會過去為他禱告。但那晚,我對上帝發脾氣,至深夜也不願意禱告;只說:「上帝呀,如果祢要我過去,祢告訴我吧!」

當時,弟弟在爸和少年人中間的硬椅上睡覺,很不舒服,就醒來。我叫他過來睡在我坐的軟椅上,我便坐到那少年人旁邊。他仍翻來覆去無法入睡。我問他:「你怎樣了?」他告訴我,手上種了一粒用來注射藥物的痘,那痘扯著他,痛死了,睡不著,明晨七時又要做手術。我終於忍不住對他說:「我是基督徒,為你祈禱好嗎?」他說:「好吧。」於是我為他祈禱,求上帝減輕他的痛楚,讓他安睡,明天手術順利... ...。

上帝仍在
當時我的禱告其實沒有多大信心。禱告完了,那少年把手在我眼前張張合合,告訴我說:「我現在一點也不痛了!」真神奇!我立刻對他說:「那麼你睡吧,這是上帝的工作。」之後,他睡得很甜。我走到一旁禱告,不禁哭了出來。我說:「上帝呀,我至今才明白,祢雖在生死的問題上沒答應我;在爸爸生病這件事上,祢沒答應我;但在這少年人身上,祢回答了我:『我在這裡!我一直都在!』」這回答我一連聽到好幾次,真不得不向上帝降服。我深知道,無論處境怎樣,上帝仍在,祂就在我身旁。

爸爸出院回家,有一夜,須再入醫院,他就摟住我說:「我一直有祈禱,一直為你們祈禱呀!」爸爸知道我很希望他信耶穌,他這樣說是向我表示,他其實心裡信上帝,不過沒告訴我罷了。
過了一段時間,爸爸被送入白普理善終院,每晚都要注射嗎啡止痛。我每晚為他祈禱,求上帝醫治,減輕他的痛苦。有時他因過於痛苦,或發惡夢,會發脾氣,不願意禱告。

感謝父親
二○○二年四月的一個晚上,爸爸又感到很痛。我說:「你睡吧,我為你祈禱好嗎?」平時他會昏睡過去,但那晚隔了十幾秒,又清醒過來,說:「阿哥(因我是長子,家人都這樣叫我),你是不是替我祈禱呀?」我心中突然有個感動,很想在禱告中感謝他。我第一次說了一大堆感謝的話:「感謝上帝,賜我一個好爸爸,他一直為這個家盡上自己的責任。我感謝爸爸在這段日子為我們打這場仗,並立下做父親的美好榜樣。謝謝爸爸為我們從小到大所做的一切... ...」我一一數算爸爸一生在我們家所作的,之後,以詩篇廿三篇結束禱告。
我感到爸爸緊緊握住我的手,是清醒的,完全聽到我的禱告,不是在昏迷狀態。禱告完畢,他的情況轉危,於是通知家人。就這樣,爸離開了我們,享年僅四十六歲。起初醫生說,他只有三個月生命。結果他活了兩年多。喪禮那天,我與親戚分享說:我很感恩,因現在天上有兩位父親在等著我。上帝知道爸那天晚上要離去,就感動我講了一番感謝爸爸的話,並且以詩篇廿三篇作結,讓他知道要回到天父那裡去。

媽媽是個很堅強的女人,至今仍未信耶穌。爸爸生病時,她仍很堅強,不覺得需要上帝。但我知道,主耶穌會拯救她。我曾與媽媽分享,爸爸再入醫院時曾說,一直為我們一家禱告,那當然是指離世後,盼上帝照顧我們家庭。我對她說:「我的個子這麼小,長得不英俊,讀的是戲劇,真不容易找出路。爸爸去世時,我還有一年才畢業,家境實在困難;但是天父給我們豐富預備,基本生活上的開銷可以應付。後來我一畢業,便找到工作,雖然收入不高,做了一個暑假舞台劇。九月一日就加入香港無線電線廣播公司,每個月都有不少工作,這全是上帝的恩典。爸爸為我們禱告,上帝憐憫,特別照顧我們。」

使人蒙福
上帝很奇妙,我們人生有很多不如意事,但上帝可以把這些不如意的事化作福氣。我舉個例,在二○○五年初,公司有一位撰稿的同事被解僱,另一位與我合作做兒童節目的同事Jessica生病進醫院。我去醫院探望Jessica時,她已離開醫院,誰料我正要離去,一打開病房的門,倒迎面見到了被解僱的那位同事。我問她是否來看Jessica。她答,是看她媽媽。因她媽媽患了直腸癌,睡在Jessica床位的斜對面。 真是禍不單行!可以想見,她的情緒十分低落,非常憂鬱。我問她,在照顧媽媽的事上,是否有困難?她很驚訝,怎麼我能體會她的處境?她說連男朋友和家人也沒法明白,只有她一個人長期在媽媽身邊照顧。我告訴她,因我爸爸也是患了直腸癌,他於二○○二年去世。接著,我和她分享照顧爸爸時種種心靈掙扎,並鼓勵她。那一刻,她知道,她的路我已走過,她並不孤單;並且,那條路不是不能走過的。於是她得著鼓舞,漸漸振作起來。她說:「我還工作時,看見你真樂觀,和同事玩得很開心,心中很羨慕!當時我媽已患癌病,我很羨慕你那麼快樂。我想,為甚麼你可以整天嘻嘻哈哈?你一定有個很幸福的家庭。今天才知道,你爸也和我媽一樣!」

我們曾有過的痛苦經歷,原來可以幫助、鼓舞傷心的人。這一位同事是基督徒,可是面對雙重的打擊,心靈不免軟弱。上帝就用我過去的痛苦給她打氣,安慰她。以後她就沒那麼消沉,積極和媽媽面對困難。

這個故事還沒有完。她的媽媽也是基督徒,睡在Jessica的斜對面。她們教會天天有弟兄姊妹來看她,給她唱歌。Jessica在旁看了,也很感動,想到自己出身宣教士家庭,卻離開了上帝,於是決定回轉歸向上帝。這真奇妙,像一個三角形,幾方面都同得造就。讓我深刻體會「萬事互相效力,叫愛上帝的人得益處」。雖然我們不知道上帝甚麼時候會用我們來祝福別人,但我親身經歷上帝多次用我的傷痛,叫別人蒙恩。

(余黃國凱採訪、整理)
『中國信徒佈道會』出版, 蒙允許轉載。」

07 April, 2008

夫婦營後感

每逢有人結婚,我地通常都會祝佢地「白頭到老,永結同心」!到底我地有冇真正諗過呢兩句祝福語係乜野意思呢?

啱啱過左個三日假期,我地參加左由國際家新協會舉辦既三日兩夜夫婦營。

有人會覺得我地夫婦之間梗係「出現左問題」先去呢dcamp喇;或者有人覺得我同我老公/老婆都唔知幾好,駛乜去呢d camp。

做人做事,都係預防勝於治療好,夫婦間本來係恩愛既,去完學習完可以更加恩愛,更加了解;夫婦間開始溝通不足,就更要虛心學習同埋努力實踐,積極改善大家之間既關係。

夫婦營中一共有十對夫婦,當中有初婚的,有年長的;有用心改善的,有被迫參與的,有相敬如賓的,有貌合神離的等等;但經過三日積極的學習,導師們真心的教導和坦誠的分享,夫婦們都得到啟發,互吐心聲,關係得到改善。

一段婚姻可以「白頭到老」,但係「永結」,可以係「唔同心」,唔想同床異發夢,相對無言就要靠大家努力喇。

15 January, 2008

A story about praying

今天我要問大家一個問題:「你的祈禱生活如何?」

你可能會覺得常常不會花很多時間,每天要忙很多事情,怎麼會有時間祈禱,頂多就是睡覺之前和耶穌打打招呼,或是星期天去教堂儘量幾分鐘不要分心地唸經、參與彌撒

和大家分享一個故事,這是發生在一個都市裡的教堂,它讓我對祈禱有新的體驗,我想對大家也會有所幫助:

這個教堂只有一位神父,由於位在都市什麼樣的人都會經過,他很認真工作也把聖堂整理得很乾淨整齊,很多人都讚美他的教堂。在聖堂裡有很多貴重的東西,所以他也很小心怕有人來偷東西,像是聖爵、奉獻箱等,他又不想將聖堂的門鎖起來,怕人們無法進來,每天都很矛盾為些事焦慮。

有天中午吃過飯,他想應該去聖堂看一下是否一切安好,進到聖堂剛好有幾個人在裡面祈禱。 沒多久聖堂的門又開了進來了一個人,神父覺得這個人很可疑,他看起來好幾天沒有刮鬍子,襯衫很髒不整齊很老舊。這位先生進來跪下後,頭低了下來,幾分鐘後就走了。後來神父發現這個人每天中午都會進來,每次都只待上幾分鐘,手上拿著像便當的東西,神父很認真地觀察看他是否會拿走什麼東西。

有一天這位先生又來了,神父忍不住問他:「請問你每天來這裡做什麼?」這個人說他在附近工作,只有半小時時間吃午飯,他盡量用吃午飯的時間祈禱,因為覺得這樣可以增加他的力量,增加工作的動力。我只能待兩、三分鐘,因為還要走回工廠,所以就只能用這兩三分鐘時間跟主說話:「 主,我只是進來一下告訴你,自從我們彼此認識,彼此做朋友之後,我很開心,自從你把我的罪洗淨了,我很安心。我不怎麼會祈禱,我沒有受過教育,我只是工廠裡的工人,不過我每天都想到你,想念你。耶穌,我是阿郎,來報到。 」報到完之後就走了。

神父聽了很感動也有點慚愧,他居然懷疑這位先生是小偷。神父對阿郎說很歡迎你每天到這兒來,阿郎謝謝神父後趕忙離開了。 工人離開之後,神父就跪在阿郎剛剛跪的地方,決定暫時不要去想會不會有人來偷東西這些事,他要花一兩分鐘時間照著阿郎的方式祈禱。祈禱時他突然覺得心很熱,好像有愛心進到他的心靈,耶穌好像就跪在他旁邊,眼淚不自覺地掉了下來,然後很自然地借用阿郎的祈禱。

幾天後的中午,他發現阿郎沒來心中很奇怪,接著好幾天都沒看到阿郎,神父心中很擔心著急,是不是發生了什麼事呢?神父決定到那工廠打聽消息,到了工廠才知道他生病了,又趕到醫院去找他,醫生覺得阿郎的病很嚴重但也覺得他是位很棒的病人,他雖然生病但他的笑容、他的喜樂改變病房很多氣氛,但醫生和護士們都很疑惑,沒有任何人來看阿郎,為什麼他還能如此開心帶給別人希望?

護士很擔心地對神父說:都沒有人來看阿郎,來關心他怎麼辦呢?阿郎聽到就笑著對護士說:「護士小姐你錯了,你不知道,每天中午我最好的朋友都會來看我,坐在我旁邊握住我的手,跟我說:「 阿郎,我只是來看你來告訴你,自從我們做朋友,我把你的罪洗淨了,我很開心。我很愛很喜歡聽你的祈禱,我每天都會想到你,阿郎,這是耶穌,你的朋友,來報到。 」」

我覺得如果我們常常向我們的朋友~耶穌報到,很專心地花這一兩分鐘,說我們真正心裡的話,那麼耶穌基督也會常常向我們報到,當我們需要時祂會來到我們身邊,我有好多好多次這樣的經驗,祈禱不在於我們花了多少時間,更不是說了多少話,耶穌也說過你們不要嘮嘮叨叨地祈禱。我們不需要把所有的事全部列出來報告給耶穌,在我們開口前耶穌已經全部都知道,我們只需要把心中最親切的話跟耶穌說,不用專有名詞來祈禱,也不用透過神學,重要的是這些話來自我們的心,相信下次當我們發生困難、危險、心中焦慮時,祂也會來到我們身邊用我們的話語方式向我們報到,這些事雖然無法證明,但相信每個人自然能有所體驗。

另一個分享是,阿郎是位很大方很慷慨的人,他只有一點點吃飯的時間,卻願意將這時間轉移給耶穌基督。有人說給予有三種方式:第一種像石頭:如果要從石頭中取得東西,必需拿鎚子用力敲打才能辛苦取得一小塊;第二種像海綿:必需用力壓它才能有更多的水流出;第三種是蜂蜜:毋需任何施力,它就自然流出且是那麼地甜蜜。阿郎的給予就像是蜂蜜,用很甜蜜的方式給予,尤其是給他最好的朋友~耶穌基督。

02 January, 2008

不幸中之大幸

忙左幾日,終於有得放下假。

之前忙D乜? 梗係上年12月30日單case喇。跟住個低能量戰士係咁改d report,一早draft好佢又唔睇,係要我地1月1 日返去幫佢改兩粒標點符號,真係“啤”一聲;不過都唔緊要,正面d睇當學野囉,最緊要係場火救熄左,兩個同事無事。

今朝早收工就去俾大sir照肺。阿sir對我既表現有讚有彈,唯一係d decision making同埋d溝通可以有進步空間;不過成單case最失敗就係有人受傷,阿sir最嬲亦都係呢樣,我自己睇番爛左個頂頭盔都幾心寒,石油氣罐爆炸播,差一,兩吋頂頭盔擋唔到,個同事就……

唔好既野已經過去左,新既一年有幾個目標,希望能夠一一達成喇!!!

以下係生果報既節錄:




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